Relationship Counseling Online

"We needed this change, but didn't know where to begin. We had seen two other therapists before.
Anthony took us
directly to our solution."
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Lasting - Intimate - Love

Heal Your Marriage
With Evidence-based Marriage Counseling 

- Without months of scrutinizing your feelings and psychobabble. A straightforward, successful approach that works!
- No endless digging into your past or revisiting your childhood
- No blaming or shaming. Let's create a future of intimate connection instead.

25+ Years Experience
Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy

Intimate relationship should be a blend of wonderful acceptance, deeply rewarding collaboration and intimate connection. Unfortunately, when things go wrong we experience conflict, blame, coercion that lead to anger and resentment. And we're left yearning for the love, support, acceptance, collaboration, and kindness we once shared.

How long have you wanted to be in a relationship that feels truly intimate and where you can be yourself and feel loved for who you are. Ideally, with the relationship skills and understanding to provide each other with what you both need.

Your New Tomorrow Begins Now

If you're willing to make that change, then I want to invite you to book a free in-person relationship assessment to explore what's involved to make that transformation happen for you.

My approach to Relationship Counseling is focused on rapid and deliberate progress to get your marriage back to love in the shortest time possible.

Take the guesswork out of your relationship. Let's explore some real answers right away, with a complimentary assessment.

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Couple & Marriage Counseling Online

Anthony Santen
CT, SAC Dip (Adv. Psychotherapy), MCH CI, CLC

My approach to Relationship Counseling is focused on rapid and deliberate progress to get your marriage back to love in the shortest time possible.

Stop The Disconnect
And Get The Love You Want

With over 25 years of experience, I have created an efficient, results-oriented approach to marriage counseling. This approach to marriage counseling is specifically designed to return couples to intimate togetherness, and deeply accepting, trusting love. My approach focuses on the shortest route to the most profound and most rewarding connection between two people.

Couples have told me they have no time for traditional counseling with endless sessions that look for fault and rehash blame. They want the best marriage counseling; direct, short and highly effective. They're looking for couples counseling that clarifies and prioritizes their relationship issues. Couples want a focused approach that directly and deliberately transforms the core issues in the marriage without interfering with the personalities of the individuals. 

With my approach, we spend little time assigning blame, going through individual childhood issues, mother/father issues, etc. Instead, we become clear about the relationship we want to create, and skilfully show up to contribute - to manifest - the next version of our relationship deliberately and effectively, creating a profoundly intimate, safe emotional connection filled with love.

Troubled partners seem to be in conflict in a desperate attempt to get their partners to provide them with what they need from the marriage. They want to love and be loved in return, but something isn't working, and they cannot understand how to get what they deeply need from their relationship.

The Intentional Relationship Program helps break down problems step-by-step. It helps you understand and overcome obstacles that have prevented you from getting the love you want, improving how you communicate, and understanding each other better.

- Are you ready to accept guidance to get the love you want?
- Are you ready to work on improving your relationship and yourself?

Break-Through, Highly Effective, Modern Approach


The old, typical approach to marriage counseling used by traditional therapists has traditionally been focused on creating a compromise, an arrangement of convenience. While this may have been practical in its time, this approach originates in the 1950's (Virginia Satir) and is currently primarily irrelevant and outdated. Yet, unfortunately, most marriage counsellors are still practicing this outdated formula.

So much has changed since then - not just two-income families, the birth control pill, feminism, etc. Cell phone distraction, parenting approaches, life span, discoveries in Individual Attachment Styles, etc., all influence how we engage in our marriages. Romantic examples originating from the '50s, '60s and '70s are no longer applicable (and sometimes even considered entirely inappropriate).

There Is A Better Way


The secret is in the approach - how we see our relationship partners - which changes how we interact with them. And this new approach works in first-love marriages as well as blended families! It helps couples create the intimately loving marriage they want - even after infidelity.

We have a choice. We can either participate as hapless victims of our relationship's unmet needs or show up as a contributor, providing what the relationship needs from us and affecting our partner to respond the way we need. This new approach can be easily learned - a new way to co-create a successful union.

...to see things we were not able to see on our own... and with only few sessions changed drastically the direction our relationship was headed.
Thank you. You are the best thing that ever happened to us.

Tilila I.

Loving Marriage 

The rewards of a loving marriage are too numerous to mention. But, immune system and longevity aside, we want peace. The feeling that we can genuinely feel accepted for who we are, a peaceful home filled with nurture, joy, a sense of belonging, support and acceptance; a space where we can discover ourselves while being loved "just the way we are."

Let's do relationship better.
Let's create a healthier, collaborative and fulfilling relationship.
And let's start today.

"Everything else seems secondary when your relationship isn't working"

Laura (&Brian) H.

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Marriage counseling is meant to be the process that transforms relationships into spiritually fulfilling, blissful partnerships for both partners. But, unfortunately, couples only looking for marriage counseling once they're struggling, after the relationship is in trouble, when they realize that their efforts seemed to no avail.

While deep down you want to get back to the relationship you envisioned for yourself, intolerance, resentment, anger (and even contempt) have taken their toll on romance and intimacy, feeling unacceptable, rejected, judged, controlled (even micro-managed or bossed around), leading to a marriage filled with disagreements, escalation and unfulfilled needs. Communication has broken down, and it looks as if the relationship is spiralling out of control.

Let's address this at the deepest emotional level, where the relationship originates. Let's turn the cycle around and deliberately create the relationship you wanted when you started together. A relationship of deep and mutual acceptance and intimate connection.

"Thank you so much for today.
You helped us turn a total crisis around in under 2hrs."

Laura C.

Approach

As you might imagine, not all marriage counsellors use the same approach. Some focus on creating understanding and compromise, while others treat the marriage as two individuals who need a referee to tell them who's right and wrong or what's acceptable or unacceptable behaviour in a marriage.

My approach is to empower both partners. To explore deep-rooted healing of the factors that plague a relationship. Without this fundamental shift in approach, solving the core issues in the relationship becomes impossible. Once these core issues are solved, finding ways to empower the partner is easy and rewarding, giving them the motivation and resources to focus on your needs. (The Secret Ingredient)

Do you know what you want from your marriage? Are you ready to discover your best relationship yet - with your current partner? Relationship counseling online is a worthwhile investment into your marriage (and ultimately yourself)

Instead of marriage therapy that ends up in complaining about each other, wouldn't you want to learn how to create a working marriage where both partners communicate openly and feel accepted and respected?  

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"After 10 years, my marriage is a sanctuary of peace for my heart, and I've never felt this level of intimacy with my wife - Thank you !!! Its better than I imagined when we got married!"

David (& Jenn) S.

When you work on your marriage with me, I keep you (both) focused on creating solutions that work in harmony with how you want your relationship to evolve. I focus you on what you ultimately want - and how to get there. Rather than waste your time being a referee in a competitive relationship, I bring you into a rewarding, mature, intimate marriage that empowers you with the skills and tools to co-create a lifetime of intimacy, fulfillment, and growth. I provide a time-proven approach that brings people together and creates safe, loving, respectful partners with a new understanding of the other and the marriage. It helps you create a marriage where you can feel safe and validated; a place you can be yourself and be loved for who you are.

Once and Done
Are you ready to create rapid, comprehensive change and keep you curious and motivated along the way? My mission is to empower you with the skills and tools you need to work on your own relationship well into the future; after having completed your sessions. Typically, in three to four months, we right the ship and confidently set a course for a relationship you'd love to be in without needing to rely on further sessions over an extended time.

You learn the key parts that help you turn your marriage around in just a few sessions. Then, we create a space where we can explore why you've been reacting the way you have and why you and your partner repeat the same behaviours over and over. We aim to create a space where you can discover who you are without being subject to your partner's judgment or correction, a space where you can feel accepted for who you are.

Do you want a marriage that lets you feel safe and nurtured while supporting your growth and providing a home for your heart? Rediscover intimacy and trust in the marriage, the joy, emotional safety and acceptance that come from a healthy relationship.

My approach is different than typical relationship counseling as we work together to create the relationship you both want without spending too much time discussing who was wrong (in the past), settling arguments, etc.

With you, we discover the true differences in approach between the masculine and feminine in the marriage, discovering and meeting each other's needs, how to rekindle a loving sexual intimacy, communicating effectively, rediscovering trust, overcoming hurt, etc.

Cost of Relationship Counseling Online:
Your first online introduction is a FREE, no-obligation Assessment video call.
After your Assessment Call, we will be able to determine the EXACT cost and time to get your relationship where you want it to be.
Full discretion assured.
All Sessions are Private, and Virtual

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More Love in This World,
Requires Intentional Relationships,
One Couple at a Time

Contact Info

AnthonySanten@gmail.com

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